The Dynamics for a Friendship

People change, it is part of the growing process. Good friends embrace, respect & celebrate each other's personal growth throughout the seasonal changes of life.

The Dynamic & Evolution of Friendship

The Natural Eb & Flow Of Friendship

You might feel a sense of comfort & familiarity with people that you grew up with because these friends are often what result into life-long connections. You become accustomed to seeing your childhood friends develop at different phases of their lives & this experience is mutual.

When you make new friends, especially during adulthood, it is human nature to form what is called first impressions. However, those initial encounters don’t necessarily give you a clear indication of another person’s complexities.

You can only truly become friends when you get to know each other personally by spending quality time together & finding common ground.

Life will present you with turning points that will directly or indirectly affect your friendships. These are times when major changes happen such as pursuing a new career, getting married, having a baby or moving to a new location.

Some changes can be devastating, such as becoming unemployed, losing a spouse or enduring health related issues. When moments of transformation occur, your friendships need to have strong foundations of love, respect, trust & loyalty to withstand modifications.

Communication & Standing The Test of Time

Communication is the key to understanding each other during various phases of achievements & disappointments, it’s important to know how to compromise & sympathise.

Sometimes, people feel left out when their friends pursue new ventures that change their outlook on life & ultimately, the dynamic of the friendship. You need to let go of the old-versions of your friends & embrace them as they grow & change into new versions of themselves.

We often hear people say “He/she has changed after that happened”, which is indeed correct because everything we experience will bring about a change within us. It’s not rational to expect your friends to remain exactly the same way they were since you met them three, five or ten years ago.

Likewise, you are constantly developing in your own unique way. When you truly care about your friends, you will be happy to see them achieve their goals, cheer them on when they win & encourage them to stand up when they fall. Negativity & envy are toxic, do not allow these pessimistic emotions to destroy your friendships.

Growing Together & Growing Apart

You have the choice to either grow together with a friend or to grow apart. It’s all up to how much you value that friendship.

Sometimes you may genuinely love your friend but the direction they want to go in life doesn’t align with yours, so if you can’t compromise, then it might be best to let them go & wish them well. It’s possible for friends to grow collectively throughout life, even when they have different ideas & goals, but only when mutual respect & steadfastness is present in the friendship. 

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Beauty Ndapanda is a Lifestyle Blogger, Writer & Newspaper Columnist.

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