All Things Beautiful, All Things Finite, All Things Gone
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When you find out you've got the "breast cancer gene", life changes dramatically.
When you lose someone that you love, the loss never gets easier, you just become more familiar with the loss.
What would you do if you found yourself in a marriage where you partner only married you for citizenship?
When you love someone who doesn't love you back, letting go might seem like the only option. When that someone is your father, however, things become much more complicated.
The ending of a relationship is hard. The ending of a relationship just before your partner passes away can be that much harder.
Relationships end all the time, sadly leaving sorrow in their wake. It's beautiful when you can turn that sorrow it to lovely words.
"Do not take special efforts to save life. Death is intended"
Tonight is all quiet spaces, empty rooms & the ghost of you. You were all sunshine & chocolate bars. You were so beautifully heavy, your weight touched me in ways I'd never even imagined. I can still feel you, a year removed from your arms. I still dream of you & the smell of your skin, the way it felt to fall asleep with you to know that you were as evanescent as a dream yet as palpable as my own skin. To know that daylight would wash over us, & I would be taken by your beautiful blue. You are gone, but you are here, your memory affects me as though you were my blood, & I want to wallow here.
I want to sit here, in this place, with this feeling, completely stationary while the world spins around us. I want you to be the whirring in my ears, this deafening sound that keeps me here, tied to a ghost of memories that have passed me by. I want so badly to not have to keep going.
Words of Wisdom
"I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all."
-Alfred Lord Tennyson
I forgive this man these words as he never had the chance to love you. You, the greatest tragedy to befall us all.
Someone else said something smarter, they said "here is just a pit stop. He was just stopping by", & I know that I was blessed to have the grace of your existence envelope the ferocity of the whirlwind that is my life. I know that I am better for having known you, better still for having held you, but my God do I miss you.
I Miss You
I think often that this could have gone differently. If I had been stronger, if I had been able to hold more of your weight for you. That month was harder than you'd believe, but I still left. I thought that you needed the space. I thought that you needed a place to be nothing but your own. I thought that we could breath the air of seperatness, & come together better for the time apart.
I don't know what I was thinking.
Sitting here now with the 20/20 clarity of hind sight, my fierce hand never should have touched your solace. I am better for your life, but you are gone. Like so many things that have flown in & out of my life, all the things I have touched & let go, you are nowhere now. You are lost to whatever ripped you from this place, & I am sitting here.
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